Putting down the cell phone, turning off Law and Order, and sitting at the dinner table for an hour can be difficult in today’s society. I compiled 14 things to ask your husband over dinner so that instead of dreading the regular small talk, you look forward to fun questions. If you have any questions you’d add, comment below! I’d love to see them!
(I referenced this article for some of my questions.)
14 Things to Ask Your Husband Over Dinner
- How do you describe me to other people?
This question provides a lot of behind-the-scenes understanding to you, as his wife, and to him, as your husband. You begin to see how he sees you, and he begins to understand how he sees you as well. This can be either eye opening or comforting, depending on what his answer is.
- What is your most treasured memory from your childhood?
I love this one because it provides insight into his childhood! Sometimes it’s hard to cover everything that happened in your childhood with another person because of the massive amount of memories.
This is a good way to uncover some of those memories and reveal them to your spouse!
- What is way too serious to you to joke about?
There are some topics that are absolutely taboo to joke about in my household. I’m sure everyone has the same policy, but sometimes, in the beginning of a marriage, you might not know what your spouse objects to!
This is a great way to cover your bases and make sure you’re being respectful of your spouse’s sensitive topics. Things to ask your husband about this topic would also be, “Why do you feel that way?” “Did something happen to make you feel that way?”
- Are there any personal habits I have that you dislike?
Ugh. This one! It can be hard to hear what you’re doing that might be annoying your spouse, but it’s important to go over these problems before they become vices. If these grow to be such large issues that you fight over them, it can cause a lot of problems between husband and wife. It’s best to just discuss them and get them over with in the beginning.
- What’s the most embarrassing thing you ever did or had happen to you?
Aren’t these questions to ask your husband fun? Here’s another great one. We like to laugh together, and this is a great question to ask your husband that will provoke some laughter, and maybe an inside joke or two. (Inside jokes are great relationship builders!)
- Do you have a single regret that stands out to you the most?
Getting serious again… This question is a rough one. Everyone has regrets, but most people don’t talk about them. Opening up the table (as it were) to deeper discussions like this can draw the two of you together.
- If you could only have one meal every day, all day, for the rest of your life, what would it be?
This is so interesting to see what they could tolerate every single day for the rest of their life! These things to ask your husband can be dangerous. Now when he asks what’s for dinner, you can tell him, “Well, you said you were cool with such and such, so I made up a week’s worth! It’s in the freezer!”
- Can you list five of your favorite hobbies on a scale of one to five? (5 being least favorite, 1 being most favorite)
I really enjoy this question because I like to do things with my husband that he loves doing. No matter what it is, it’s good to know so that when you’re planning his day (try to have a “her” day and a “he” day every month), you know how to schedule it.
- Who is your biggest hero?
This just shows me a little insight into what he’s modeling himself after and who he looks up to most.
- What is your favorite sound?
This is a weird question, isn’t it? But I have favorite sounds – rain being just one of them. I bet you’ll be interested and a bit fascinated to see what your husband’s favorite sounds are!
- If you could choose to live forever, would you?
I don’t think I would, but I would be interested to see what my husband says to this one. Living forever is basically the biggest commitment ever.
- What would you do with $5,000 if it were handed to you tomorrow?
When you have additional random income, it’s good to know what your husband would do with it. I like to dream about all the things I’d buy and do, but I know that ultimately, five thousand isn’t a whole lot and it would be comforting to know exactly what he’d use it for should that situation ever present itself.
- If one song was the soundtrack to your life, what would it be?
This is a super fun question. I don’t even know what I would say about my soundtrack! I probably wouldn’t be able to choose just one song. Would you?
- What’s the best part of waking up?
Folgers. In my cup. Clearly. Oh! And my husband. I expect that’s probably what he wants to hear instead of Folgers… But this is a cute question to ask him while you eat dinner. Opening up discussion with these questions can drastically improve your line of communication between each other and encourage further conversations in the future.
Go forth and ask!